I CONFESS: I don’t want my married man

EVERY WOMAN INVOLVED with a married man is not a slut or “two-penny” whore, as is said. Neither is she aiming to break up the man’s family life and steal from his wife.Though the vast majority of women who do get involved with a married man hope to get the man eventually for themselves, some of us just like the man and are quite content to accept having limited access to him.I am one of those women, and I know I am not the only one who is comfortable with this arrangement. This lifestyle works for me, given my goals, my work and my interests. I don’t want a man in my life 24/7. I want someone there that I can talk with, whose opinion I respect, and who I can be intimate with when I want to be. At the same time, I must be free to pursue my own interests and get on with my life on my terms without restrictions. This old-time idea that every woman wants to get married, and those that get involved with a married man want to steal him from his wife is bare foolishness. Some women go for married men for money. Others just want a relationship with a man who pays them attention. And then there are women like me, who don’t need a man financially, but want companionship with someone who would give us quality time, rather than just focus on sex, or try to outwit us emotionally. I don’t need that. That is why I would not get involved with a single man; he would complicate my life and cramp my style.I am not saying how I live my life is for everybody, but I can tell you that it works for me and my man. We have been together for just over nine years. In that time I had a child.He divides his time between his family, and me and our son. I recognise his commitment to them comes first and never encourage him to do things that would undermine that. At the same time, I expect him to be there for his son most of the time.His wife knows that we are good friends, as we were together before they even met and married. And, of course, she knows about our son. What she does not know is that we are still lovers, and I do nothing to make her feel threatened in anyway.As I said, I know I am not the only woman who has such a relationship going. So the question of what single mothers can do to encourage their partners to marry them does not apply to some women. Though people don’t believe this to be so, some women are not interested in marriage.