Dear Christine,I would like to hear your view on a matter that is bothering me in my marriage. This is two years I have been married. I have a little one-year-old child. Now from the time my wife was two months’ pregnant, I decided she should not work because of the problems she was having after standing for a period of time, so she has not worked since.When my wife was due to go into the hospital, I took the time off and was in the hospital until the child was born. Christine, I brought everything she needed. I washed, cooked, cleaned and also took care of our child. My problem is (and you could tell me what you think), I work so hard sometimes my body goes into a sick mood and I am so tired that I need good rest on my off day, but no matter what, my wife leaves me to take care of him, even when I say I am not feeling well. It is hurting me because of the child, but I will leave her and take care of my baby wherever I am. Am I selfish to want rest after a hard day’s work and when my wife is not working? All the women I spoke to said their husbands don’t do anything and I am doing all that a woman should do. – TIRED DADDear Tired Dad, I must empathise with you.You are apparently a very generous and loving husband and you deserve better treatment and a more understanding wife.Having sacrificed so much during your wife’s pregnancy, she should now be willing to work with you and share equally in the upbringing of your child.Actually, she should be playing a major part in the child’s upbringing since she is not working. And it is unfair to expect you to have a full-time job and not have enough time to rest and recover on your off day.However, before you decide to leave her, you should both seek counselling.
– CHRISTINE
