SEX TALK: Love times two

While lounging on my neighbour’s backyard patio and looking at him escort his ‘outside’ woman through the side door, I began to wonder about multiple loves. Is it possible to love two people at the same time? Can one be in love with two people at the same time? If so, should both parties be pursued until the one doing the loving is confident enough to make a decision? If you think being in love with two people at the same time is complicated, think about the scenario in which Candice found herself.Candice met the man of her dreams at 22. Four years later, although she was still happy, she was a bit bored. She began pursuing a woman of her same age, disposition and who worked in the same building. After six months, Candice began falling in love with the woman.  This obviously caused a shatter effect in her relationship with her male partner. When confronted, Candice claimed that she was in love with both people. While it may be that genders differ, the scenario remains the same. When a person has feelings for two people at the same time, he or she could feel confusion at the mere thought of having to make a choice. However, not making a choice is a selfish act. Not only does it hurt the lover who has been with you over time, but it can also engender jealousy and unwarranted sadness. If you have about four minutes to spare, listen to the song, “The Weakness In Me”. In it, the singer croons about not being able to choose between two people. If you have only three minutes, listen to “Torn Between Two Lovers”. You see, the problem of falling for two people is a universal one.   Poets and writers, singers and movie makers have been delving into the subject for decades. The important thing to remember is that you are not alone if you find yourself feeling for two people at the same time. What is even more important to remember is that a decision must be made at a sooner rather than later time. If you truly examine your feelings, you will see that you feel more for one person than the other. Be truthful with yourself. If, on the other hand, you are one of the parties on the receiving end, it is imperative that communication takes place.At the end of the day, each person deserves 100 per cent of their partner. Anything other than that is simply engagement in games of affection.