Dear Christine,
My boyfriend and I have been together for nearly two years, and I love him very much. He has also told me that he loves me too.
To prove his feelings for me, he introduced me to his mother and over the last three months or so, I have sometimes slept over at his house. She wasn’t happy at that at first but has warmed to the idea and now treats me like one of her daughters and his two sisters and I also get on very well.
About two weeks ago, I told her that I hoped her son would propose soon as my mum was not happy that I was sleeping at a man.
I said that expecting her to understand my expectations, but instead she seems to think I am trying to force her son to leave home.
Since then she has dropped remarks about me wanting to steal her son from her, and leave her without anyone to support her. Though I tried to tell her that was not the case, she has banned me from her house.
Though that was bad enough, my boyfriend has not come around or called since she did that to me.
He would not even answer his cellphone when I call. What have I done that is so wrong to deserve to be treated so badly?
– Help Me
Dear Help Me,
You have done nothing wrong. You are the victim here.
You have a mother who wants to protect her financial interests, and a son who would do whatever his mother wishes.
Those selfish mothers who do this need to realise that they contribute to their son’s negative attitude to commitment to a formal relationship.
This sometimes leads to many mature men living in their mother’s house, having different girl-friends and children overtime, but never committing to anyone until his mum is dead or infirm – and then he is looking for someone to help him to take care of her.
You may love him, but if he cared for you he would not have treated you in that matter.
I suggest you get on with your life because he clearly demonstrates that he does not deserve your love.
– Christine
