Over the last ten months, I have been analyzing my marriage, and I have recognized that the person you love the most and spend the most private time with has the potential to be the one that upsets you the most.
That person has immense influence on you and has the ability to make you smile, cry and “cuss” all within one day.
When my wife and I were courting, we decided to doa relationship review every six months. This review was created by her and contained questions which we both privately answered on the review questionnaire.
We would then go to the East Coast and study the review there while we watched the sun rise. Some of the questions were: how has this relationship changed your life? What are the strengths and weaknesses of this relationship? What were our main challenges over the last six months? What were your favourite memories over the last six months?
Why do you think we are together and name one goal you think we should reach together? How can we strengthen our “purity walk” in this relationship? Do I support you enough?
This review was created to keep us accountable to each other and to make sure we both understood the dynamics of our relationship and that we were heading in the same direction together.
On the questionnaire there was a question that made us both laugh but at the same time was very serious, as we both had two different answers. The question was: What are the strengths and weaknesses of this relationship?
My reply for an area of strength was “communication”, and her reply for an area of weakness was “communication”. Here I was thinking that I was on top of my game in this area and she thought there was greater room for improvement.
After the relationship review was finished, I spent the next few months thinking about how differently males and females perceive things and I found an answer.
We all view life based on our world view. My world view may differ from yours and as a result some of our beliefs and perceptions differ as well.
I share a world view that man was created by God and, based on this, I received my answer to why males and females see life so differently.
When God created Adam and opened his eyes, the first thing he saw was his environment/nature, and God commanded him to work and take care of it.
When God created Eve and opened her eyes, the first thing she saw was her man Adam/family/nurture and she was created to support and take care of Adam and her family. Our perceptions were formed in the “Garden”.
This is why a woman even though she is ill or exhausted will still rise early to provide for her family and a man becomes very depressed, uncomfortable and even embarrassed if he cannot find a job.
As I began, I will close: the person you love the most and spend the most private time with has the potential to be the one that upset you the most.
I believe this can be greatly minimized once we understand that men and women were created differently and as a result see things differently.
Let’s practise lateral thinking and recognize that both sexes perceptions are important to the balance and excitement of life.
