SEEING AN EX with their new partner can be an emotional nightmare, loaded with jealousy and hurt feelings. Here are a few ways to keep your cool and come out intact.
1. Never give in to the urge to pick a fight. If you feel there are unresolved issues that must be addressed, call or write your ex at a later date. If you find yourself on the receiving end of antagonism from your ex, simply cut short the interaction and walk away.
2. Stay focused in the present. If you’re both there for an activity, keep the conversation focused on that. Avoid relationship talk unless directly asked.
3. Understand that there’s no need to put on a cheerful front. Of course, no one wants to come across as a train wreck in the wake of a break-up, but neither do you have to pretend that everything’s perfect. You shared your life with this person. Have the courage to be honest.
4. Try not to compare yourself to your ex’s new partner. The life your ex is leading with this person is entirely separate from the one you two shared. Be courteous to this new person, but allow him or her to remain a stranger.
5. Use this run-in with your ex as fuel in your new life. They’ve taken that crucial next step and moved on. Allow yourself the freedom that comes with truly cutting ties with a past relationship and find that once-in-a-lifetime connection that’s out there waiting for you.
If your ex broke up with you and you still have lingering feelings for them, it can be hard to let go. However, if you broke up with them, they could possibly be trying to make you jealous. The best thing to do is realize why the two of you broke up. If he/she is unwilling to try to work things out, then it is time to move on. It’s easier said than done, but it is necessary. Realize it is the actuality of the moment and there is a degree of loss, but get out into the world to see what is out there.
Sometimes the only reason we feel any jealousy towards an ex is that we think they moved on too quickly. Think about if you really have lingering feelings for him/her or if it is just resentment that may be over you. It is a tough pill to swallow, but it may just be your ego, so get out there and move on as well. Allow some time to pass and you will realize you feel a bit better as it goes by.Â
The same way physical injuries take time to heal, so does a broken heart. After some time goes by the pain will ease and you will be able to move on . . . . Allow yourself to feel whatever it is that you need to feel, but realize that each day is a healing process, bringing you closer to your much deserved bliss.
