Dear Christine,
My reason for writing you is about those women who are having relationships with married men in the church.
My first question to these women is, do you think God will bless you with a married man? Do you think God will break up a family in the church to create another family?
Any man that is committing adultery is a liar. He would tell you all sorts of things about his wife. But no good man discusses his wife with anyone but his wife.
Why do we women short-change ourselves?
When God has something for us He has the best. Women need to realize when we are having relationships with married men we are hurting other women and we should think of the children involved.
Do you want these children to lose faith and trust in fellow believers?
Women of God, we need to stop the Devil from making us a footstool and be the vessel God can be proud of.
Some persons would say women have to know how to hold their husbands, but I don’t think married women should watch their back in the church with the sisters and their husbands. This only makes the Devil and his followers laugh at us.
We are supposed to be looking out for each other, not hurting each other.
Sisters, wake up and smell the smoke; there is nothing that the Devil organizes that ends in happiness. My sisters, everything that the Devil offers on a silver platter would rust big time. Remember what you sow you shall reap.
– ETWAROO
Dear Etwaroo,
This letter disturbs me because, if I understand it correctly, you are suggesting single women within a church are having affairs with married men in that church.
I keep hearing accusations like this and, if they are true, it makes me tremble at the thought of nothing being sacred anymore. I am not naive to believe these types of liaisons only started recently, but the number of accusations of such trysts among church-goers – whether true or false – do not reflect well on congregations or churches in general.
Women and men who attend church, and those who have pledged their lives to Christ, should seek to live their lives to an exemplary standard. Having said that though, given our society’s penchant for gossip regardless of the facts, people will say the most ludicrous things.
That said, I agree with you that too many women sell themselves short by getting involved with married men. Few of these men ever leave their wives for these “outside women”. Yet, such relationships persist because of the basic instinct of males and females.
I know too that some women target married men because they are looking for some measure of financial security along with the freedom to do what they want, when they want. They can achieve this moreso with a married man in their lives than with a single one. I know too well that some women tell you they do not plan to marry because they prefer to “live off of somebody’s foolish husband”.
These are the type of negative developments which have contributed to the breakdown of trust between the sexes.
If people are to ever regain respect for the sanctity of marriage, married men and women need to commit themselves to each other and reject any interlopers.
Thank you for your letter.
– Christine
