Dear Christine,
I need some serious help for my daughter. I went to the Child Care Board and the police, but have not received any help.
Let me tell you about my daughter.
Christine, I am accustomed to sending my daughter by her grandmother’s. Now, she went there on March 24. I called and asked her if she was okay, and she said yes.
Then on March 31 she called me at work and said her father had beaten her with a dirty shoe.
She said her hand, foot, and back were cut up and swollen.
I told her to catch the next bus and come by my workplace. I then took her to the police when I finished work.
The police didn’t help me. But I will take the matter to court.
Christine, I am afraid that man may hurt my little girl.
From a baby he did not support her until now. I had to buy her schoolclothes from primary to?secondary school and am still doing it. She is learning well and gives no trouble.
I am concerned about her father’s manner in dealing with her.
I am pregnant, suffer with high blood pressure, and have a temper.
This is my last say, Christine. If you can help me before anything worse happens, I would appreciate it as I need someone to talk to.
– T.C.
Dear T.C.,
You need to calm down before you do something you may regret.
This situation needs mediation and not the violent approach you indicated you are willing to take. Violence begets violence; it never solves such delicate relationship issues – only discussion and a commitment thereafter to remedy the matter works.
How you proposed to deal with the situation was cut from this letter because that level of violence cannot be condoned.
You need too to stop thinking that the police and Child Care Board are not listening to you, and are against you.
Based on what you said (but not printed) it is clear that your history with this individual and your temper would make it difficult for anyone to accept what you say just like that. They would have to hear his side as well.
You and your daughter’s father need to realize that your constant warring is only damaging the girl’s development and perception about life, love and relationships. Both of you seem wrong in your approach and this needs to change now.
The two of you need some measure of intervention in your relationship. I urge you to seek professional counselling. I’m sure once you ask the relevant authorities they would try to help you.
For your daughter’s sake, please don’t make this bad situation worse.
– Christine
