No one likes to hear the two words “It’s over”.
For men it comes as a “slap in the face” and their egos are bruised, while some women feel a sense of “scorn” after realizing they have been kicked to the kerb, in some instances for another woman. Some men have found themselves on the receiving end of several pranks and nuisance calls, while others find themselves being terrorized after they decide to call it quits on a relationship. For some women it seems that breaking up is hard to do, but not all women are like this.
Does it seem that a man can get over his former girlfriend rather quickly? We polled some men on whether walking away is easy, if they can remain friends or if they have felt a woman’s fury after calling it quits. Here’s what some men had to say.
Soldier Boy: It depends on the relationship and how it ended. If it was amicable, then you may continue to be friends and mutual respect is observed. However, if the ending was turbulent, then a “woman scorned” is on the loose. Although I have never really experienced it, on one occasion I found that erroneous information was being spread about me, to the extent that the woman emailed my partner and tried to sully my name.
Man to Woman: A woman scorned will go to all lengths; it’s just how much your new partner is willing to believe.
Big Boy: It’s pride on either side. Each wants to be the first to pull a Trump, a la “You’re Fired!” So when the other dismisses, you find the sacked party going all out to dodge the bullet. But when the crisis passes, don’t be surprised if those who were about to get kicked to the kerb suddenly deliver marching orders.
Man to Woman: That is soooo true!! I find that men hate to hear a relationship is over, but as soon as you give them another chance, they wait until you settle in good, then kick you to the kerb and their decision is always final.
Brian: Women prefer to get over a man before he gets over her. If she moves on first, then it’s all good but if the guy moves on first, then it’s pure chaos. Women love to call and put down the phone in people’s ear and they love spreading rumours. The trick is to make them feel they have won, then they leave you alone.
Man to Woman: It seems like a phone is always a woman’s best friend when she feels scorned. I hate to admit it, but a woman loves to call and put down the phone in a man’s ears.
Dark Sugar: In general, women love stronger than men, especially if the sex is good and the man takes care of her. I once had a women stalk me. She would turn up at the office unexpectedly and just sit and wait until I came out for lunch, or she would drive by the house several times at night. It really used to freak me out.
Man to Woman: It seems that your name really suits you then, Dark Sugar. Be careful how you dish out that molasses because stalkers can be very obsessive people. I would never like to experience that.
Dr Love: Most women are nice. However, there are few that will go to the ends of the earth to get even (as they call it) – even if it means seducing the man and letting the new woman find out. Women have perfected the art of getting even. They will sit and plan and execute clinically. At the end of the day I still love women.
Man to Woman: Dr Love, what you have said about women is very true. They sit and plan and execute with the hope that nothing leads back to them, but a smart man always knows who’s behind the chaos, no matter how hard they try to cover up.
Caleb: Luckily for me, I have not had those experiences! As a man I can honestly say that men have also become very possessive. Both genders believe they have ownership of each other. I clearly understand love – it is very deep, but there are more fish in the sea. Creating havoc in someone’s life is not true love, because true love goes on and on. I guess it is part of the human condition to be in control at all times.
Man to Woman: I’ve heard it said that if you truly love someone, you should let them go. If they return, then they love you just as much. If they don’t, then just cut your losses and move on – obviously it wasn’t meant to be.
Short and Handsome: Some women will find it hard to let go because the man might be supporting the whole family and she may really need that help. Others just can’t take the fact that the man is leaving them for someone else, so they go out of their way to cause havoc. So, yes, some women do find it hard to let go.
Man to Woman: Either way, neither gender has created a lover out of gingerbread, so when the relationship is over, both need to learn to move on and do it gracefully.
