Wednesday, May 20, 2026

Feeling trapped with older man

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Dear Christine,
JUST OVER a year ago I left my home, where my daughter still lives with her husband, to live with a man who is 20 years older than I am.
Christine, he appeared to be a rather kind gentleman whom I started feeling sorry for. His wife died and soon his children left home, leaving him alone. That’s when I decided to move in with him.
Christine, in no time I started to see his true colours. He is like a bodyguard. I cannot even go to church without a fuss.
He hardly gives me anything for the housekeeping, yet he does not go hungry because he eats lunch at a restaurant. At night he is quite satisfied with eating biscuits and drinking tea.
He is an early sleeper. I have to do the same as he quarrels if I burn too much electricity.
All I seem to be doing is keeping his house clean and supplying sex when he wants it.
What would you do if you were me?
– DBB.
 
Dear DBB,
I do not think you should have moved into his home in the first place. Placed in circumstances like that, I would return to the comfort of my home, where I would be able to keep the lights on as long as I like and be free to worship as I please.
Get out of that prison! There was a lesson for you to learn, as you’ve now seen his true colours. Just leave him alone.
–  CHRISTINE

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