Some men say they stay in relationships “because of the children”, but is this true? Man to Woman sought to find out whether men would stay in a miserable relationship “just because of their children?” Surprisingly, there was only one man who said he would stay, most opted to leave and try to maintain healthy relationships with their children.
Dark Sugar – It’s a definite no! When the relationship is strained, the kids involved pick up on these things and are affected negatively. It affects their attitude, outlook on life, their performance at school and so on. The best thing to do is just get out of the relationship with that woman but maintain a healthy relationship with your kids. They will get accustomed to you not being there all the time and when they are old enough to understand, what you can do is have a heart to heart talk with them. Don’t stay in the relationship that has gone bad, the bickering and the violence WILL affect your kids!!
Man to Woman – What you have said is very true, staying in a relationship because of kids is one of the worst pressures any couple who have “fallen out of love” can make.
Mr Weekes – I don’t think people should stay in a disruptive relationship because of children. A friend of mine said he did it because it was having a serious effect on his daughter’s grades, but I think if the parents are constantly bickering in front of the child, there will still be a serious effect on its grades. When a relationship just ain’t working, cut your ties and losses and move on.
Man to Woman – Men believe in their children and blame themselves for reasons “like failing grades” but in my view the best option in a relationship that isn’t working is to leave.
Short and Handsome – No I would not stay in a miserable relationship because of children. Once it becomes acid I would have to leave, but would continue to support the children. Some relationships become too bad after a child is born with parents going in opposite directions, so there is no use staying.
Man to Woman – I can’t possibly fathom why anyone would want to be in a miserable relationship “because of the children”. I think that is one of the weakest excuses adults make at trying to “play a part to their friends” that they are in a happy relationship.
The Baby – I think its rubbish to stick around under those circumstances; I personally believe that you as an individual should be comfortable in any relationship with your partner. If you’re not comfortable it’s just an act. It’s difficult for kids when parents go through issues and break-ups but if the father or mother love the kids as they are expected to, breaking up under such circumstances should not change how much you care for them..
Man to Woman – It’s always difficult in these situations and even in divorces, but the children will understand eventually.
Mr Humphrey – Yes I would stay in the relationship for the children even if I realize they are being used as tools. It’s not about me or the woman but about the child and his/her needs and being there for them, once they are not overly impacted by the state of the relationship.
Man to Woman – There are thousands more like you who stay in these miserable relationships and then seek love on the outside hoping that the pain will go away, but it never does…
Ryan – Probably not. If you are in a relationship that is not working then you will be miserable, and aggressive towards your spouse. This wouldn’t lend a healthy relationship for any child to see, it’s best to leave and explain to the kids why, so I wouldn’t stay.
Man to Woman – Sometimes adults feel that the children “won’t understand” but when they are constantly hearing the quarreling and fighting, children are quite ashamed of that as well and probably hoping they’d separate so the neighbours wouldn’t hear “all their business”.
Antonio – No. The child also suffers in that relationship. The misery between the parents eventually leads to hostility and the child is raised in a less than suitable environment. More often, once the parents are separated and adopt a mature attitude towards the raising of their child and a civil attitude towards each other, then there is the possibility that a potentially bad situation for all may more than be salvaged.
Man to Woman – I think separation and mature attitudes are best in these situations, but unfortunately sometimes it doesn’t work that way . . . . Some partners become very spiteful and I am ashamed to say, most of the time it is the woman.
