Dear Christine,
THE man that I am living with (my parents do not know), has a wife and three children. From the time we started seeing each other, he said he was going to leave his wife and when he gets a divorce we would get married.
How can I believe this, when I’ve heard that he and his wife are getting another child?
I am so unhappy and frightened over what my parents are going to say when they hear that I am also expecting a baby for him.
Please help me.
– C
Dear C,
First let me state that you have no legal right to a man who is married, and you are 100 per cent wrong to be living with him.
The fact that you have hidden knowledge about your living arrangements and this man from your parents tells me that you yourself know that what you are doing is wrong.
Secondly, have you sought to find out from him if what you’ve heard is true? Have you confronted him about your own pregnancy?
What have you got from him, apart from unhappiness, fear, and now a baby, who will have to live with the consequences of your actions? You really do not need to be dealing with all this in your life right now.
Going forward, you’ll first have to tell your parents about the baby. Secondly, you will have to find the strength to let go of this man and give him the freedom to return to his wife. Let this episode in your life be a lesson to you. The world is not going to end.
God will give you the strength to start life on a new footing, and someday you will find someone who will love you and who will need your love in return.
– CHRISTINE