Dear?Christine,I have a problem which I’d like to share with you.
My husband and I divorced two-and-a-half years ago, but we never stopped being relatively good friends. Even though we are not living close to each other, he visits the house quite often. I am seeing someone, even though we are not engaging in sex.
The thing is this: my ex-husband always turns up unannounced during the day and night and he calls me very often. Christine, on more than one occasion we actually had sex. This has bothered me and I even felt ashamed that we did.
I have asked him not to come to the house, but still he’ll pass by from time to time. I do not want to lose my current friend, whom I am growing to love, but I do not know what else to do. – T.Y. Dear T.Y.,You have got to be kidding me!
When your ex-husband turns up at your home, and you believe you need to communicate with him, talk to him from a window. It is as simple as that. You don’t have to open the door and let him in.
Nowhere in your letter do I see that he has ever forced his way into the house.
Literally close the door to that relationship by keeping him on the outside. Maybe then he’ll see that you are being firm without being unkind to him.
He cannot become a bed partner if you’re looking to start a new life with someone else.
On the other hand, if you two had decided to make a go of a possible reconciliation and re-marriage, I’d understand. There would be nothing wrong with that. However, that is not the case.
That’s why casual sex with your ex needs to stop immediately.
Do not let him continue to control any aspect of your life. – CHRISTINE
