Dear Christine,
I NEVER THOUGHT that I’d be writing to you about this problem, but I have no choice as I need your advice and direction.
I am a girl in my late teens and I have a boyfriend whom I have been seeing for the past seven months. He can be the nicest person you could ever meet, but I see an ugly side to him.
He becomes possessive and this is annoying me. He visits my home three and four times a week, but because my mother works odd hours, she is not aware of his many visits.
Also, Christine, there is yet another side to him. He can stay away for up to two weeks without calling and I also refuse to touch base with him.
Here is the thing. When he does not come around and I go out with my friends, he gets annoyed. He tells me I should stay at home and that I am looking for other guys, yet I am sure he spends a lot of time with his friends. Do you think this is right?
– P.G.
Dear P.G.,
I am not sure how old this guy is, but he has no right to determine whether you go out with friends or stay at home.
Furthermore, I won’t refer to him as a boyfriend. One of the problems with young girls like yourself – and even older women – is that you give yourself to these “guys” too early in the relationship and they lay claim to you.
If he is acting this way now – even the aspect of being here today and gone tomorrow for long periods – what kind of relationship or friendship would you expect from him in the future?
In other words, if you were to marry him, imagine the restrictions he’d put on you.
It’s early yet in the relationship. Let him go on his merry way, and continue to spend those precious moments with your friends.
– CHRISTINE
