Dear Christine,
I AM IN LOVE with a man who is around 38 years old. We were friends for a long time, when all of a sudden he fell in love with me. He told me he wants me to be his wife.
Christine, I love and care for him a lot, and I know he loves me the same. However, there is a woman who lives at his house and she would not let me and the man live lovingly.
He told her he has a very nice woman and that he would like for her to leave his house. She refuses to do so. She telephones me and tells me all kinds of hurtful things when he is not at home.
Christine, what can I do about this? I do not want to lose this really nice guy and he does not want to lose me either. I am also not prepared to give him up.
What should I do?
– G.P.
Dear G.P.,
Can’t you see that this man is playing a deadly game? Why was this woman living at his house in the first place? I am sure he was in love with her at some point in time and that he invited her to move in with him. I am also sure that this woman is also hurt by his actions and the fact that he wants to put her out of the home they now share together.
Wouldn’t you be unhappy if you lived with a man for a period of time, only to have him ask you to leave because he has now found someone else who has captured his heart? I’m sure you would be, even to the point where you would be extremely angry. I am sure when you started your “relationship” with him he was living with this woman.
Are you truly convinced that he is sincere about wanting to marry you? If he truly wanted to do so nothing would be able to stop him and the woman in his home would have to come to terms with the fact that she is a thing of the past and there is nothing going on between the two of them.
Currently, both of you are holding on to the same piece of cloth – but she is in the better position, since she is sharing a roof with him.
He has to make a firm decision about who gets the ring. It is very easy to talk about getting married, and another thing to do so. He is eating his cake and having it too. Talk is cheap! If he does not make the move to sort out this arrangement, you may have to simply move on.
– CHRISTINE
