Dear Christine,
I am in bed writing this letter to you at 3:41 a.m. after another sleepless night missing the woman of my heart.
Christine, this woman and I first met four years ago when I first started to work on a new route.
From the first time I laid eyes on her, I was taken. At the time she was seeing another person.
As I am never one to cause a noise, I held back my feelings.
In so doing, however, my feelings for her grew more.
After she and the guy had a falling out, I also became aware that her next two attempts at relationships were also a bust.
That’s when I decided to lay my cards on the table and tell her how I felt. When I did that, it was a huge load off my chest. I must say that I had the most wonderful conversation with her on the telephone for two hours. We talked about anything.
From then on, we spent time together and got to know each other really well. I fell in love with her.
Christine, she is the kindest and most caring woman I have ever met. I started to treat her like the queen she is. After about five weeks we were both in love and happy.
Then, it happened! In my line of work everyone has something to say about you even when they don’t really know you.
After some people saw us together for the first time, they started to bad-talk me to the point where she could not take it anymore. She ended the relationship.
Christine, these people do not know anything about me. They told a lot of lies and drove the most wonderful woman ever away from me.
Christine, I am not giving up on her. I love her too much and I will not stop until I have her back.
She is my world, my heart, and my soul.
Whatever it takes, I will win her back. I just want to know what I can do.
I will not stop even if it takes forever because my life is empty without her.
– D.
Dear D.,
I am a little concerned about you and this woman.
First, it is not healthy to love someone the way you love her: “She is my world, my heart, my soul.” You are in for a lot of heartache if this is how you view her in relation to your life.
No man or woman should love anyone so much that they believe their life is empty and there is no reason to go on without him or her. I caution you!
Now to your question of what to do! Do nothing! I believe you have already tried to convince her that what she has heard is untrue. If she does not have the faith and trust in you to love you despite what has been said, it’s not really love. It seems that you love her more than you do yourself and more than she loves you.
I question also how come she has had four relationships (including the one with you) in four years. Don’t you?
True love never fails and is always hopeful. It does not even see wrong (the wrong in others), and it always forgives.
Does she measure up to these truths? Can you honestly say that this woman loves you? Also ask yourself that question.
My advice to you again is to leave her alone, and please do not lose any more sleep over her.
If she returns to you, fine. If she does not, I’m sure in time you’ll heal and find someone whose love for you is not so fickle.
– CHRISTINE
