Dear Christine,
I love reading your column and I do love most of the answers you give to those who ask your advice.
I just want to reply to Margaret whose letter appeared in the June 13 Midweek Nation.
She said she had an abortion 12 years ago and was regretting it to this day. She also said she has a boyfriend and will soon be getting married, but she knows when she is married she will not be able to give him any children.
Why would she say something like that before she tries? God said the power of life and death is in the tongue. She is already speaking doom on her life.
I am not saying that having an abortion is right but sometimes as humans we do things which are not right, but God sees, cares and He forgives.
We always think God is the big man upstairs who beats us over the head with a stick and has nothing to do with us every time we mess up. He is not! He is a great, wonderful and forgiving God.
I too had more than one abortion when I was young because I thought I was not ready to have children. I met a wonderful man later in life, got married and asked God to bless me with two children.
During some routine check-ups I found out that one of the abortions had ripped my womb out of place. The doctor told me it might be impossible to have any children.
Today I have two beautiful children – a son and a daughter. Someone might say everyone is not the same. Yes, that may be true, but one thing I know for sure is that God is still the same yesterday, today and tomorrow.
He said if we are willing to confess our sins, He is willing to forgive us. Anytime we ask God for forgiveness He grants us forgiveness, but most times when He forgives us, we refuse to forgive ourselves and continue to live with regret for the rest of our lives.
Most times our not having children is our fault not God’s.
We tend to live in the past, regretting for the rest of our lives something we can never go back and change.
So to Margaret and others who are living with regret like she is, confess before God. He is willing and just to forgive.
Speak good things over your life and future, and have plenty beautiful children. The greatest pain we can cause ourselves is not forgetting the past but worrying about the present, which eventually blights our future.
God bless you all!
– Forgiven
Dear Forgiven,
Thanks so much for your letter. What I found very interesting and I know would be of great help to all readers is the fact that you did not just have one abortion, yet you were able to accept God’s forgiveness and move on with your life – to the point where you are now married with two children.
Your letter must be an inspiration to those who survived an abortion (some were not so fortunate) and are still living lives of guilt.
If we all would share our personal experiences (as you have done) others would realize that the trials, setbacks and pain in their lives are no different from “the other person’s”.
Again, thanks, and feel free to reach out whenever you feel the desire to do so or as the Spirit leads.
– CHRISTINE
