Relationship of one not working

Dear Christine,
I have been in a relationship with a woman for the last four years and we have been living together for two. I am 25 years old and she is 20.
Christine, this woman is so lazy that I have to beg her to help me clean the house. When I quarrel, she always says she will clean, but in her own time – which never comes.
She is also a mummy’s girl. She is always at her mother’s house and never spends a full week with me. Christine, I go to work five days a week and when I return home we are unable to spend any quality time together.  
Christine, I am not saying that she should not visit her mother, but does she have to do so each week and three times a week?
She works part-time so I understand why she would make a stop there but when she is at home (on her off days), she still goes there. This has been happening for two years.
I have also watched this woman become overweight. I spoke to her about it, offered to pay for her to join a gym even though she has access to a gym for free. She only goes to the gym with her friends and that lasted for a month. I love her and want her to keep fit so she can be healthy.
She also does lots of things with her friends and few with me. I cannot take it anymore. I love her but I don’t think she loves me enough.
I am of two minds – whether to stay or leave; and the odds are with leaving.
– ?
 
Dear ?,
I will support you 100 per cent if you make the decision to leave. You two seem to have very little in common when it comes to setting up house and living together as a couple.
You do not have the same ideals and, quite frankly, appear to be living as friendly roommates, not a couple who can move on to the next step of getting married.
While you cannot fault her for spending time with her mum, especially if they have always been close, she should still make quality time for you.
From what you have written, she always spends much time with her friends and is lacking when it comes to cleaning house. Is this the kind of person you want to settle down and have a lasting relationship with? Think ahead! What will happen when children come into the picture? Do you think things will improve?
Your girlfriend was obviously very young when you started your relationship and maybe she still has a lot of growing up to do; but from what I see, enough is enough.
You both deserve happiness and it seems you’re not able to make each other happy. Leave!  
– CHRISTINE