A BLESSED 2013 to you and all of your readers.
I’m taking time out to respond to Miss C’s letter of January 1, in which she stated she has been in love with a married man for the past two years and she never gets a card or a gift from him.
What does she expect? After all, he is not her husband. He has a wife. Why doesn’t she just forget about him and look for someone else who can make her happy?
I, too, was involved with a married man for over 30 years and his wife never had a clue. However, Christine, God was watching over me all that time. I am so thankful that He did not take my breath from me during those years because I would have split hell wide open.
Today, I am serving the Lord with all my heart. When I look back at what I was doing I tremble to think about how I was hurting another woman. I had to ask God for forgiveness. I was being used by a married man; married men don’t love you. Married men use you for the moment.
Many times when the married man I was seeing came around it was only for sex. The next time I would hear from him again would be when he wanted more sex. He would give me anything but only when I asked for it. I faked many a pregnancy just to get the money for abortions that never were.
Miss C, please set a good example for your children and God will take care of you. That man’s wife may not know what is going on, but God knows and on the day of judgement you will have to answer for your actions. I believe you know what is best for you and I can tell from your letter that your conscience is bothering you. It is really the Holy Spirit speaking to you; obey Him.
Thanks for your letter, but I’d like to draw something to your attention. You said that married men only use the women they have affairs with and there is no real love involved. Isn’t it true to say that these women allow themselves to be used?
Have you ever heard about a gun being placed alongside a woman’s head forcing her to enter into an affair with a man who is married?
All of us are free to make choices and, the truth is, we sometimes make the wrong choices. Like you, it then becomes necessary to ask God for forgiveness if our lives are indeed spared for us to do so.
On the other hand, married men and women owe it to their partners to remain faithful to them, but we both know quite well that infidelity is widespread. We live in an imperfect world where, sadly, we feed our physical and emotional man more than we do the spiritual man.
Like you, I hope that Miss C and other women and men out there would resist the approaches of those who are married. Likewise, I hope that those who are single would leave those who are married alone.