A COURT ORDER requires that I drop off and pick up my daughter at a certain organization so that her father can come and collect her.
I do it. If I’m took sick or have plans that cannot be cancelled, the father then complains to his attorney that I am not bringing the child to the particular location.
His colleagues are always dropping remarks when they see me or have something to tell me otherwise. Two women, in particular, are guilt of this and look at me with contempt.
When I drop off the child and he is there waiting, he always verbally abuses me in front of these women, and they don’t say anything. But when I start to talk, he treats me as though I have committed a crime.
I cannot ask or tell this man anything concerning our child. And because of that he has already put her life in danger by telling lies to a nurse at a polyclinic in order to get an MMR vaccine. I showed him proof that the child was sick and had fever for four days straight and was on five bottles of medication as a result of what he did.
He also caused our daughter to get an infection through using something on her skin that he should not have. I took her to the doctor and got the problem remedied. But he went back and did what he always did, which caused the child’s skin to break out again. Now her skin is looking scaly.
In addition, he does not brush her teeth properly and whenever she stays with him, when she comes back to me she has an unpleasant smell. Her clothes are always dirty.
This man does not feed my daughter well either. Every time I collect her, as soon as she get in my arms she tells me, “Mummy, I hungry”. Even when she calls me for something, or I call him, when he gives her the phone, she tells me, “Mummy, I hungry”.
So as soon I get her home after she has spent time with him, she eats all her food and asks for more. She passes air all the time, too, and often complains that air is hurting her stomach.
Another nasty thing this man is doing is stalking me. Whenever I drop off the child, as long as he is off, he follows me to see which direction I am going and whose car I’m getting into.
No one listens to me because of his position. I would like to sit down in a meeting between us and his boss so we could thrash out our difficulties. It seems he is doing whatever he thinks he needs to do that would help him get full custody of our daughter.
He talks about it all the time. I wish it were possible for us to do a polygraph test. That would set everything in motion and the real truth about what he is doing and what I have done would reallycome out.
Something needs to be done because he is using his position to do a lot of nonsense because he thinks he is the law, something he always says.
I would like people to know what some women have to go through when it comes to child maintenance issues or relationships after break-ups, especially with men in positions of authority.
It is not right how this man is treating me just because I do not want him anymore.
He says he wants our child full-time, but really does not take good care of her for the little time she is with him. I would ask women to think about the men they get pregnant for. Some men are just too spiteful.
