Dear Christine,
I HAVE BEEN MARRIED for just two years. I got pregnant six months after my husband and I were married. For the past nine months we have not had sex. What should I do in a situation like this?
My husband refuses to talk about the problem, but I am not happy at all. Mind you, he adores our son and would do anything for him, but he refuses to touch me. When I try to initiate love-making, it’s like coming up against a brick wall. I am frustrated and simply do not know what to do.
– HELP
Dear HELP,
Things can sometimes change drastically after a couple has had their first child, and you are not alone in this dilemma.
Men can go off sex, and I’m guessing that your husband’s issue revolves around impregnation. He is either of the view that the reason for sex is producing a child, and achieving that has ended his interest in it, or he was not financially or emotionally ready for a child and now links sex with pregnancy but does not want to have another child just yet.
Either way you are sex-starved, which is part of “the contract” after you’ve said your “I do”. Simply put, your husband needs counselling and you will have to convince him that the sooner he seeks some professional advice, the better it would be for your marriage and your lives together.
– CHRISTINE
