Dear Christine,
I need your advice before I have an affair.
My wife is refusing to have sex with me and says her life is too stressful right now. She is a stay-at-home and we have a one-year-old daughter. She says I am just one more demand in her life so she has decided to give up that part of our relationship until things get better.
I don’t know when that will be.
I try to give my wife whatever she needs and I understand at times she wants her space because life is always stressful with a young child. It has not been totally easy for me either, especially having to get up in the night and all that goes with raising a child.
Do you have any insight on how to handle the situation?
– D.D.
Dear D.D.,
First, I’ll like you to really think about your wife having to look after a young child on her own at least nine to 12 hours daily, then having to do so for a further six hours at night when the child also needs attention. Since you’re at work during the day, you are not under the same kind of pressure as she would be. This is not to say you do not have a plateful as well.
Here’s the advice: Find out what you can do to make her life less stressful and do it. Perhaps you can give her some nights off and take charge of your son, hire a housekeeper for at least two days a week to ease her burden, and every now and then hire a babysitter while you take your wife to dinner or to a movie.
I’m sure if you do these things, your wife will become your willing sex partner all over again.
– CHRISTINE
