Dear Christine,
Like other young men, I’ve had my love affairs with young women and quite frankly they left me unimpressed.
I suppose I would give myself a few more years to really make up my mind as to what suits me, but I felt to share my feelings with you about a matter that concerns me and a woman who is 52 years old. I am 24.
Christine, I love her very much, and although I feel I’d be lost without her, I am worried about what our sex life will be like and whether we’ll be able to satisfy each other. I plan on asking her to marry me, and will or will not depending on what you have to say.
– D.
Dear D,
Your last sentence has caught my attention. If your decision to marry this woman is dependent on my answer, then it tells me you’re not really in love with this woman as you claimed. If you are truly in love, nothing I or anyone else says will make a difference to you.
You also seem very preoccupied with the sexual relationship between you two, and while I cannot fault you for that, I must also say to you that marriage and relationships are more than a bed.
A longing for an older woman is not unusual in a young man’s development, but it should not lead to rushing into sex or marriage – the latter of which is a very serious step.
At your age, you may be lacking confidence in yourself as a man and you can only get this by mixing with people your own age and seeing whether love grows there.
If then, therefore, you still long for this older woman, you’ll be quite sure of your feelings, and will be in a better position to know which road to take.
Having said all that, what does this woman think about you? Does she feel the same way and is she thinking along the same line as you are? If she’s not, then you need to fish in different waters.
– CHRISTINE
