Dear Christine,
I AM a deeply worried man. When I met the young woman I am with, she had two children from two different men, both of whom had forsaken her. I told her I would also care for her children.
I was not a resident of Barbados at the time and had to return home until I got my papers sorted out.
When I returned to Barbados, she was pregnant. She said she was sorry and I forgave her.
One would have expected her to realise how much I love her. She knows my salary. Well, eventually I built a house for her and the children because I love them. She then met the boy’s father after five years. He did not even know if the child was a girl or a boy.
Now that she sees him, he has her brainwashed into believing that he still loves her. They communicate every day.
All the time I thought she loved me. I trusted her so much and now I don’t know what to do. I would never hurt her or the children.
I can hardy function at work. I study it so bad that I cannot eat anything. She is saying that anybody can communicate with whom they choose.
Christine, please tell me what to do. I am faithful to this woman but she has not been faithful to me. It is true that we are not married but with the way things are going I am not sure what I should do at this point in time. I cannot begin to imagine what it would have been like if we were married.
I invested so much into this relationship, but I am getting the bad end of the stick. This is not a good reward.
– C.S.
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Dear C.S.,
The experience you’ve had with this woman is somewhat shattering but it must not cause you to give up your life.
You can let her go her way if it is her intention to betray your trust. She is ungrateful and not deserving of the care you have given to her and the children. I doubt very much that the men who fathered her three children would have done what you did.
Maybe when she knows you are not prepared to put up with what she is doing, she will come to her senses. I hope this happens very soon – at least for the children’s sake.
– CHRISTINE
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