Dear Christine,
I HAVE BEEN LIVING with a married man for the past two years. He has often told me he would be leaving his wife (getting a divorce) to marry me. He says he loves me and cannot live without me, but I am tired of waiting. What do you think I should do Christine?
Barbara
Dear Barbara:
You do not need me to tell you that the first mistake you made was to live with someone else’s husband. You already know that’s wrong.
Would you, if you were married, want to see another woman shacking up with your husband?
I believe if this man had any real intention of leaving his wife he would have done that already. His wife must feel hurt and wronged and you yourself are full of doubt about him and your future.
Although it will be hard for it, you’ll have more peace of mind if you ended this affair. The sooner the better.
– CHRISTINE
Dear Christine:
I fell in love with a man whom I later learnt was married. He visits me as often as possible but he has to be careful. He’s not happy with his wife, but if people get to know about us, it would ruin his reputation. A divorce would also hurt him.
After I found out he was married I tried to forget him but all I do is think of him all day and night. What should I do?
– L.P
Dear L.P:
I would advise you to stop seeing this man right away. Even if forgetting him is hard to do you can certainly stop seeing him.
It was dishonest of him to make you fall for him without telling you the truth about his marriage. What about the hurt to his wife and your own reputation? Have you given any thought to these? It is about time you did, and stop trying to make him look good, when he is not.
– CHRISTINE
