I AM NOT generally a nosy person and I tend to stay out of other’s people business. However, I need some sound advice right now.
My wife has had an on/off affair for two years. I have known about it for some time and I even confronted her about this.
I have not been unfaithful to my wife and I have often wondered why she chose to have an affair.
Well, to cut a long story short, she says it is over now, but she has said that before. Right now, it doesn’t matter anymore anyway. We will be formally separating soon. I think I have had enough.
Is there an obligation to let the man’s wife know what’s been going on? We’ve known this other couple for some time as friends, and I don’t think the wife has a clue. I recognise that only part of my motivation is honourable.
There is a part of me that is angry that “he” is “getting away with it”. Still, that by itself does not necessarily mean I shouldn’t tell her. It would be messy. There are young children involved in this whole mess and they can be hurt, but it just does not seem to matter to me right now.
E.D.
Dear E.D:
You are well aware and conscious of the fact that your motives are wrong. I think you should leave this situation alone and stay out of this man’s business. You can ruin quite a few lives through your actions.
Time has a way of unearthing dishonest seeds. Allow time to reveal what has to be revealed without you seeking “some form of revenge” right now. Furthermore, think about those children.
CHRISTINE
