Dear Christine,
I am so unhappy about my life. I am living with a married man and his son. I have had to talk to him about the little boy and some of the things he does.
Christine, the man allows his son to do what he likes. When I have to he said I do not like his son and that he does not care about me.
Christine, I wash, cook, starch and iron for this man and his son, and he still has the heart to tell me I don’t do anything for him. The boy won’t even help to carry out the garbage.
If either of them sees a pin in the way, they would rather walk over it than pick it up. Some days I do not have breakfast or lunch, and this man spends the money on himself and his son.
I have children of my own, but they are living at my mother. Christine, I do not have anything to offer them.
What can I do, Christine?
– B.B.
Dear B.B.,
First and foremost, you have no right whatsoever living in a house with someone else’s husband.
Where is his wife anyway? Is she out of the picture because perhaps he treated her the same way he is now treating you?
Second, he has no obligation whatsoever to support you. From the look of things, you have simply become their housekeeper – washing, cooking, ironing and cleaning up behind them.
You need to pack your things and return home to your children who could probably do with some motherly care, instead of wasting everything you have to offer on this ungrateful, uncaring man and his son, who obviously don’t appreciate all that you do for them.
You say that you do not have anything to offer your children. Let’s face it! Six and a half-dozen are the same. The situation with your children exists even while you are giving this man your time, attention and sweat.
The only difference is that you are not receiving fair treatment by so doing.
Won’t it be wiser to return to your children and at least keep your dignity, even though you may not be able to supply their needs financially at this time? They’ll still have your love, presence and appreciation.
Shake yourself free, leave this episode of your life behind and start thinking about a better future.
Try your utmost to earn a living, even if it means ironing, washing and cooking in exchange for an honest day’s pay.
– CHRISTINE
