Thursday, April 18, 2024

DEAR CHRISTINE: Wife not interested in having sex


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Dear Christine,

MY WIFE and I have been married for 16 years and have two children. At this time of our life, I find our sex life almost non-existent. I know sex is not all there is, but it does help a marriage along.

My wife is not interested in sex more than once a month or even longer. She never makes the first move, which makes me feel like I am not wanted, and she thinks making love is best in the dark, in bed and in one set position.

I am not a sex maniac, but I believe there is room for variety and that we are missing out on this side of our marriage. With things as they are, I am beginning to feel that I cannot be bothered to approach her. As a result, I am often sulky towards our children, who should not be made to suffer. I just cannot discuss this with my wife.

– L.F.

Dear L.F.,

I am afraid you’ll have to discuss it with her. There is no other way out. The problem you’ve shared is between the two of you. Too many partners, especially women, like to withhold sex from their spouses. When a third party comes into the picture, they then begin to rant and rave.

You’ve got to sit your wife down and have a good heart to heart talk with her. Let her know that you’re hurting and that you really want your marriage to work. In all fairness, you must also seek to find out if there is anything physically, emotionally or mentally causing her personal concern.

You may be very surprised at what she is also going through.



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