I am 16 years old and have been with my boyfriend for just about six months.
From what I can see, he has always been a bit controlling and extremely jealous. About two weeks ago, my parents told me something needed to be done about this situation and they told me I could not see him anymore.
When I explained their concerns and spoke to him about how his behaviour was affecting our relationship, he said he would destroy my parents if he had to, so we could remain together.
Christine, I don’t doubt for one moment that he is making sport. I believe he is serious. Since this discussion, I am so concerned about my parents’ well-being. We have always lived as a happy family and I love my parents a whole lot. Both of them are like my best friends and I would not want to see them get hurt.
I also love my boyfriend and I have told him that while I am living with my parents, I have to do as they wish.
I have tried to talk him out of this “silly idea” and even told him that since my 17th birthday is just weeks away, I would be able to make my own decisions next year when I turn 18. He told me he did not want to wait.
I do not feel as though I can discuss this situation with my parents. What can I do?
– Seeking Help
From Abroad
Dear Seeking Help From Abroad,
Pray tell me, why would you want to stay in a relationship with someone who has threatened to destroy your parents? Don’t you think he would destroy you also, given his jealousy and controlling spirit? To whom will you be loyal – to your parents, or this guy whom you just met six months ago?
I have to tell you this: He is a mental case with serious problems and you are putting your life in danger. He is also desperately in need of psychological counselling and possibly a psychiatric evaluation.
If you fail to do something about this situation and he goes ahead and hurts your parents, you will be an accessory to the crime because you knew beforehand and did nothing about it.
Please speak to your parents about this serious threat to their lives so they can take the necessary actions to protect themselves, like speaking to the police. You also need to be protected from this irrational character who spells trouble – with a capital “T”.
Trust me! This is no “silly idea” as you seem to think. Have that talk with your parents right away.
– CHRISTINE