Dear Christine,
I was hopelessly in love with a man for four years. But because he kept running around with other women, I broke up the relationship.
Soon after, I met a really nice gentleman who said right out he did not want any living together business. He said he wanted to get married. This was two years ago.
But Christine, my problem is I am still in love with my old boyfriend and I am quite happy to see him occasionally as he continues to see other women.
This is getting me depressed and I need your help.
– Y
Dear Y,
You must really try to get over this obsession as far as your old boyfriend is concerned. A good place to start would be to stop seeing him occasionally.
It would appear you got married to get over this old affair and I am truly sorry that this has so far failed. I guess in your more sensible moments you’ll recognise that your old boyfriend does not love you but your husband does.
Why are you so eager to throw away your love on a man who does not want it rather than the one who does?
You must pull yourself together and make your marriage work. You know exactly what you need to do.
– CHRISTINE
