DEAR CHRISTINE, I have been a victim of my husband and his many outside women. There was, however, a special one who gave me more trouble than all the rest.
She would come wherever he told her I was going and would walk behind me and, believe it or not, curse me. And when I told him about it, instead of defending and supporting me, he too would “light” into me. For him she could do no wrong.
Many nights I prayed and asked God to let me know what I had done to deserve this. His family encouraged him in his affairs, especially with that particular woman. Because of where she works, she got favours for them.
Christine, he would make all kinds of sport at me while I was praying.
I used to tell him he doesn’t want me now but one of these days he might need me. He’d laugh at this. I took his cursing and abuse for many years. He also said I was too old for him, though I was only five years older.
But as fate would have it, he suffered a stroke – from all the things he was taking to keep up in bed with the young thing. Now I am the one who has to look after him. His family, who were so good according to him, barely pass by. And the woman who used to curse me, she doesn’t even call him.
No woman has a right to tell another woman the things she told me. They believe what the men who are liars tell them.
There is so much more I can tell you, but do not want to take up more space. To women who suffer, I want to encourage them to wait on the Lord and be of good courage.
– M.M.
Dear M.M.,
I deeply sympathise with you over the problems you have had (and still having) with your abusive and now sick husband and the women who joined with him in making your life so painful.
You are to be admired. Now that sickness has floored him, and the “young thing” appears to be no longer interested, you are the only one caring for him. You have certainly embraced your marriage vows – “in sickness and in health”.
God has blessed you with a forgiving heart. He will continue to strengthen you to be caring and merciful to one who has hurt you in so many ways.
– CHRISTINE
