DEAR CHRISTINE, I AM a 35-year-old married man and, before I got married to my then girlfriend, she cheated on me several times – yet I went ahead and tied the knot.
Again she cheated on me several times after our marriage. We are still together, but here is the problem. A man came to our house once and said he was the father of our first child.
He even took her to court. She told her best friend, who was on a visit from overseas, that the last child isn’t mine. Yet my wife insists both children are mine. Should I get a paternity test?
Christine, what has me concerned is that she did not want us to have sex for several months and then one night she would not sleep until I gave into her desires.
Never climax
Then, just over a month later, she said she was pregnant with my child. The thing about it is that I cannot see how this baby could be mine since on that occasion I never climaxed.
Christine, she also hurls insults and negative comments towards other women who talk with me. She says she loves me, but how can a woman love a man and treat him the way she does?
Every time I leave she comes to my workplace and promises she will change. I go back and it is back to the same old habits. What can I do?
– PUZZLED
Dear Puzzled,
If all you say she is doing to you is correct, I see no happy ending. In fact, I feel a sense of danger. If this continues you might lose your temper and act in a way that will get you in some serious trouble.
If you know for sure she has cheated on you, then do yourself a favour and move away from the relationship. It must be painful to you and certainly dangerous to your relationship.
To continue is to embrace more heartbreak andthe danger of retaliation, which could get you into serious trouble.
– CHRISTINE
