DEAR CHRISTINE: Before I got married there was a young man who I loved very much. He left me to go overseas to work and promised that he would send for me. We kept in contact for a while, then everything just went on a standstill.
I heard that he had picked up someone else over there. It took me some time to get over him but I did, and then I met the man who later became my husband. We live very peacefully and happily and I should not be upset as I am at the moment.
The reason why I am feeling upset is that my old boyfriend has now returned. I’ve seen him a few times, though we hardly have much to say to each other. He looks at me in a very knowing way and I think of him constantly.
My husband trusts me and I appreciate all he does for me and my little girl whom I had before I met either of them. We have a nice home. In fact, when I look around I see I have almost everything except love and it is getting me depressed.
– K.M.
Dear K.M
An old flame sometimes makes a man or a woman feel that there is love on the other side.
It is easy to believe that your old flame is the one for you, but it’s not so. You are with a man who loves you and provides for you. Don’t be like the dog that had a bone in his mouth and noticed his shadow in the water – which he mistook to be the real thing. By going after his shadow, he dropped the bone and then had nothing to eat.
Your former boyfriend is that shadow. You already have the real one, but you are paying more attention to what is now a part of your past. The old affair is also like imagining greener pastures on the other side. You must try hard to stop your daydreaming about this guy who let you down or you are likely to lose all that you’ve got.
– CHRISTINE
