DEAR CHRISTINE, Recently my husband got a job overseas where he makes more money. We are trying hard to own a house of our own.
When he was here, we would go out on weekends to a particular place, and while there we would meet up with other friends.
We always had a nice time, although I noticed if my husband got up for anything (like getting a drink), the fellows would say funny things to me while he was gone. I would laugh and not take them too seriously.
There was a particular one whom I always thought talked a certain way with me because he was drunk. Now that my husband is away, he tells me he is serious. I am accustomed going to this place where there are other friends, but I am wondering how you think I should handle the present situation.
It’s flattering, but frightening.
– W.S.
Dear W.S.,
I guess you know the story of the flattered flying fish . . . . It’s quite possible if you don’t get your head screwed on the right way, you’ll not have a happy ending to your story either.
I must say your husband has a fine bunch of friends when the moment his back is turned, they try making life difficult for his wife. Don’t they have wives and girlfriends of their own?
I see no reason why you should not go out, especially if you are in a group, but you have to be extremely careful that neither by word, by look or by deed you encourage any of these guys.
On second thought, I do not think you should go back to this regular meeting place unless you have a good female friend accompanying you. But if they persist, let them know you will tell your husband the things they say to you and stop going there altogether.
– CHRISTINE
