SOMETIMES WE SHOULD listen to that voice of reason in our heads that tells us what we are about to do is wrong, or at least, not in our best interest.
Some call that voice our conscience. I do not know if it is that or just our Guardian Angel.
For sure though, it is often right, and on sober reflection we tend to realise that the course of action we were inclined to take before that voice started talking with us was really not the most sensible thing to contemplate doing.
I thought I should share this nugget of wisdom, especially with men, because we tend to follow our lustful emotions rather than stopping and thinking about what could happen if something should go horribly wrong.
That said though, I recognise that when you’re young you often act first and think after. It is only when you mature that you sometimes pause to think first before you act.
Of course, some people would tell you that hesitation can often lead to not achieving one’s goals in life. And that can be true. It can also lead to procrastination, which again is no good.
But stopping and thinking – from A to Z, so to speak – before taking a course of action is usually the best thing, especially when you could lose so much if anything goes wrong.
In my case, I always think of the impact anything I do can have on my family, and the disappointment they would feel.
So if I met a woman and I realise I could bed her without anyone ever knowing about it, my first instinct as a young man used to be to do it. I did that without thinking about consequences. As I matured, the voice in my head began speaking to me about doing such things.
That little voice would often ask me a series of questions like: what is so special about this woman that you want to have sex with her other than bragging rights about another notch on your belt? Do you know if she has a sexually transmitted disease which condoms cannot protect you from? And if she does, how would you explain to your madame what you did to contract that illness and then pass it onto her? What would such a development mean for your marriage and your life? Is that risk of sex really worth it?
After going through a series of questions like these and you still are intent on being intimate with that woman, then you certainly deserve any and everything the liaison brings.
Today when I pose some of these questions to my buddies who indicate to me they plan to “fix up” an outside interest, they often tell me I am being superstitious. Bad things only happen when you think that way, they often say. That is why when people dwell on something going wrong it often does.
I don’t know if that is so or not, but I know what happened to me years ago that cost me my first marriage was due to not thinking about consequences first.
I met this much younger woman who had a pretty face and a curvaceous body. We got along really well and so I tried a thing. She had no problem with me being married, so I started to pay her rent and with that came some sweet, sweet sex.
Though I was accustomed to women, this girl was simply the best woman I ever went to bed with. I enjoyed her so much that I started ignoring my wife’s needs. But I didn’t care, this woman knew how to please a man.
The problem was I was that not the only man she pleasured, though I thought I was. When I found out and started making a noise one night she called the police, and then the whole affair was revealed so everyone found out. My wife stayed at first, but then she walked because of all the lies I told.
I deserved that. She was a good woman and I deceived her. I never realised how much I loved her until she was no longer there. I begged her to come back to me; I cried and said sorry so many times that I must have sounded like a stuck record. But no matter what, she never returned. She hated me for deceiving her, and who could blame her.
And so I lost someone who truly loved me for sex with someone who only did it with me for money. How much sense is that?
That is why today I listen to that voice in my head. I don’t care what any woman looks like or how easy she is, I would never cheat again. I now have me another good woman and I’m not going to lose her for nothing. So fellows, before you stray, think about what you have to lose. Believe you me, you’ll realise it’s likely not worth it.
