DEAR CHRISTINE, I am married to a man who has cheated on me from day one. The very day that we got married, he was seemingly chasing after skirts.
In fact, he invited his children’s mother to our wedding against my better judgment and a fight almost broke out. Not with me and her, but with him and her.
This is five years that we have been married and although things have not been smooth between us, I am hoping he will see the error of his ways and pull himself together.
I cannot up and leave because I have no family on the island. I was born and raised in . . . Â My husband leaves home when he feels like, and although he does not sleep away from home, he comes in all hours of the night and early morning.
I keep asking myself how come I did not see the kind of person he really is before we got married. I will admit that we married just a year after we met. I knew he had two children, but I never understood the relationship he had with his children’s mother.
I am now left wondering what to do. Should I return to my country and try to make a life for myself there, or should I sit back, relax and hope that my husband changes?
I know I cannot continue living under the present circumstances because my husband is likely to bring home a sexually transmitted disease. Please advise me on what to do.
– A
Dear A,
Your situation is a very tough one. You have no family here and this puts you at a disadvantage.
You have not provided a lot of information about yourself, but if it were possible at all to take some time to revisit your homeland on a short holiday, you’ll probably know for sure if that is the step you want to take.
You can either do that or wait to see if your husband changes, which may take a very long time, based on his lifestyle and according to what you have written.
– CHRISTINE
