DEAR CHRISTINE I am 15 years older than my husband-to-be, but in our culture and race, this is not a problem.
However, I am afraid that as I get older, he will leave me for someone who is much younger.
He claims that he loves me and will never leave me until death do us part. I love him very much and want to believe him.
We have been living together for the past year and plans are that we will be leaving Barbados to get married overseas where we will also reside. On the other hand, I would prefer to get married before we travel.
What should we do? He feels the same way that I do about our marriage arrangements.
– V.D.
Dear V.D.,
I believe you should get married. Some of the most ideally matched couples age wise break up.
The age difference is no greater challenge in marriage than other reasons which cause splits. A matured woman or man can be exceedingly charming. Usually, they make better homemakers.
After a year of being together, your boyfriendmust know he has foundthe qualities he’d like in a wife. You are the onlyone who can spoil it byfeeling he is doing you a favour.
Don’t say, “Oh I am . . . years old so I need not bother”. Acquire a good dress sense, keep your hair groomed, be interested in life in general and your husband won’t want to swap you for any shallow-headed, awkward youngster. Be happy!
– CHRISTINE
