DEAR CHRISTINE, I have a problem, so please tell me what to do.
I am married and yet young in age, style and fashion. Quite recently my husband has not been treating me good at all. He keeps telling me that I am the cause that he and his girlfriend, whom he met again recently, broke up five years ago.
Christine, he had told me then that he never had a woman and I believed him. Now my life is a real torment.
I recently met a guy who has proven to be very nice to me. Mostly when I ask him for anything, he gives it to me. Once I was sick and I thought it would have turned his mind against me, but he kept on loving me.
I also love him and I am happy when I am with him. He is a very decent man who does not crack any dirty jokes or talk about sex. In fact, he says he does not love me for the purpose of sex.
But this is the problem now: my mind is not there for him like before. The jealousy I used to have for him is over. It seems as though the love I had for him is shifting to wanting only to be an ordinary friend. He is not satisfied with that.
I am also scared to make up with my husband because of the dirty things he has done to me and called me. I just feel like leaving out all men and sticking by myself.
I do not see my husband most of the time as he is always out of the house.
– G.K.
Dear G.K.,
It might not be a bad idea to free yourself of all attachments for a while. Because you are not with your husband does not mean you have to have someone else in your life.
Do not write off men, but don’t be too hasty in getting seriously involved. I think once your husband is after his old girlfriend, there is very little you can do to get him back and if you find it unbearable to live under the same roof with him, then you’ll have to find some other place to live.
It would be a mistake to move into another’s man place just for shelter. He is bound to have other ideas. So if you must stay at home for economic reasons, at least get out among friendly people. Occupy your time and mind with some worthwhile things. Sex is not the only spice of life.
– CHRISTINE
