DEAR CHRISTINE, For the past five years I have been in love with a guy and have given my all to him. During the past year, however, he has been staying away pretty often.
I tried not to pay too much attention to this until recently because I have been told that when he says he is at home resting after a hard day’s work, he is in fact at a certain woman’s house, usually staying until the wee hours of the morning.
Sometimes he goes straight to work from there.
I have questioned him about it. He did not deny it outright, but says I am the only one for him and when he talks to anyone else, he always tells them about me.
Christine, should I end this relationship or should I wait and see if this thing with him and this woman will soon pass? I am anxiously awaiting your answer.
– L.A.
Dear L.A.,
If you care enough totolerate him going to this woman and spending the night with her, what’s to stop him going from woman to woman with you still waiting to take him back when his interest in them passes?
I know it’s going to hurt terribly to give up your lover, but then you’ve gotto realise that you’re not now happywith things as they are and that, in actual fact, he is no more your lover, but you and whoever else he feels like having an affair with.
I think if I were in your position, I’d start to move around and get interested in other things and people to take my mind off him and to tell him to go altogether.
Six years is along time for two people to be together without some sort of knowledge as to whether they want to get married or not.
I feel you’d be quite happy and prepared to say yes to such a proposal, but is he going to make one now – or ever?
– CHRISTINE