DEAR CHRISTINE, I would like you to help me solve a problem.I have been having an affair with a man for the past four years, but I have my doubts, as there is another woman in his life.
When he is with this woman, he pays me no attention. Whatsoever the two of us plan, she can change it.
For instance, the two of us planned to go to a show one night and then he telephoned and told me he could not make it, as he had something to do at home.
I went all alone and when I got there, the first thing I saw was him and the woman. Christine, this was the first time in years he ever planned to take me somewhere, and this is what happened to our arrangement.
All he wants all the time is for me to go straight home after work, saying nothing to anyone, being his bed partner and helping him with money whenever he needs it.
When he is with this woman, they don’t even care to hide. Please tell me what to do.
– J.B.
Dear J.B.,
The question here is, what do you want? Do you want to go from work to home, not speak to anyone, be ready when he wants you in bed and willing to fork out the money you work for whenever he needs it?
Of course, you don’t. Not for this man who is openly involved with someone else. He strikes me as a bad investment of time, money and heartache.
It’s probably true you can’t see happiness without him, but this will only last for a while.
Once he is out of your life, you will be able to look around for someone who is more worthy of the love you have to offer.
Some folks think it is better to have some sort of love rather than no love at all. They only sell themselves short. I don’t go for that, I just don’t. In the first place, I cannot call the treatment he gives you love.
You are simply there to meethis physical and financial needsand that’s about it.
I think the first thing you should do is try and go out on your own if you want to.
He has no right to control your life while he runs around the way he does.
– CHRISTINE