Dear Christine,
At 23 years old, I am reasonably attractive and have a boyfriend who is 25. I love him very much and he says he loves me too, but I don’t think he really means it.
I feel I am being used by him because I don’t bring myself to say no to him. He is handsome and the girls are always after him.
He does not take me to parties but he is always talking to them. He tells me they are not for him.
I don’t mind because I am not really a jealous person.
I show him all the love I know. I always buy him small gifts but he never has a gift for me. Whenever he sees me, he wants some money.
Sometimes I give him up to my last cent just to keep him happy. Again he never has any money to share with me.
When we go out I pay the bills. He has a better job than I have. His salary is twice as much as mine.
Christine, I don’t want to reproach him. I am fed up with things as they are, still I won’t let him go.
I want to get married and settle down with an honest and loving man. However, every time I bring up the subject of marriage, he is mad with me saying he is too young for it.
I have a good job and a nice family which I love dearly. They do not know my problems.
They think we are happy but I am not.
After having some disappointments in my life a few years ago, I don’t want to go through anymore hurt.
What can I do?
– K.G.
Dear K.G.,
You say you are fed up, but obviously not fed up enough with this man who keeps sponging off on you for everything you’ve got.
You are buying his love but is it worth the price? I am sure even now you really have no hold on him.
He is nothing more than deadweight – drop him.
You seem to be placing too much importance on his handsomeness which you say the girls are after. Give him to them.
Even now that he is said to be your boyfriend what are you getting out of it? He takes you no place – he has nothing to offer you and yet he continues to drain you of all he can get out of you.
Don’t think for a moment this is going to keep him near you longer than he can help it. It is quite possible when he can find someone else to supply him with more, he’ll be off.
Is he really worth your love?
I think not!
– CHRISTINE
