Dear Christine,
I trust you are well. I really appreciate the fact that you take time out of what must be a busy schedule to listen to the woes and challenges of others. I never thought I’d have cause to write to you but here I am with my problem.
My boyfriend seems to be nice sometimes but at other times he worries me because he would not tell the truth. We have been together for just over two years.
Once I saw some condoms in his drawer and asked him about them and he told me his cousin gave them to him. Yet, when we are having sex he does not want to use them. I asked him if he uses them on someone else and he said no, but I know he uses them with other girls.
He’ll tell me he is going to a particular place or location but he never gets there. He comes home all kinds of hours in the night and early morning and refuses to say where he has been.
Christine, he is the only man I’ve had a relationship with. What should I do?
– L.S.K.
Dear L.S.K.,
He is untruthful, unfaithful and neglectful. Why do you want to stay with him? If you have a problem saying “no” to what he does and what he stands for, then you should try saying “go”.
He may be your first lover, but he does not have to be your last. Release him and take some time to be on your own for a while. That’s something I find many young women seem to have difficulty doing. They believe they are incomplete without a partner, but that’s not true.
You also have to consider the fact that if he is running around, perhaps he does not always use a condom. This means he could be exposing you to sexually transmitted diseases.
If you’re just a pleasant bed companion, he’ll probably feel that you can easily be replaced by other willing young women. You don’t have to continue being one of them, especially when you’re not happy with the way things are.
Don’t hurt or stress yourself out any longer. From what you’ve written, “he just ain’t worth it”.
– CHRISTINE
