IF?GOD IS with you, who can be against you?
That is my belief because I can confess today that God is faithful to this industrious woman. When I relate my story you will understand.
It is sad when a person’s idea of love is to hurt, but this was my lot while I was in a relationship with a pleasant-looking but devious man for nearly seven years.
In April 2000, I was renting and the individual had his very small home. Because I loved him and things were going good between us, we made a decision to come together and by December we began extending his house.
Around that time he went on a bikers’ ride and on the way back he fell and broke his arm. I became a home nurse for a few weeks, taking care of his every need. While he was injured, the work on the house continued and was completed in January 2002.
It was after that that things changed between us. He took up with a number of people he called his friends and his attitude changed. He began liming while I stayed at home and indoors as if I was in a glass case. He had little time for me and if I made a call to him to find out where he was and when he would be coming home, you would be amazed to hear his tone of voice.
On June 6, 2005, he said he was going for a ride as usual. Acting on information, I went by his sister’s house and he was there with a woman from the same neighbourhood where he limes. I began shouting for him to come out but he hid himself and the woman in a room. While I was outside, he called one of my relatives and told that person to tell me to leave his sister’s house as I was behaving badly. Though angry and hurt, and wanting to confront him, I left.
He later came home but had a real attitude, so we never discussed it. When we did speak to me, he told me that he was fed-up and he told me to leave his house. Though I feel I was being wronged, I left. Knowing what I did for him, I figured it would only be a matter of time that he would dump that woman and come begging back to me. Well I didn’t have to wait long. After only a month, he and the woman finished, and he came asking me about a reconciliation. So after we talked it over and I said my piece, I went back with him.
By the beginning of 2006 I was still trying with the relationship. There were good times and bad times, but I was determined to hang on because I really loved the man. Then that year he and some of his friends got into trouble with the police, and he was charged with a crime and he was held in jail.
As rough as he had treated me in the past, I took into consideration that things weren’t always bad and surrendered all I had to help this man in his time of need. I stood by him and was there for him in every way. Eventually, the case came up and the charges against him were dismissed. He was so relieved and happy that we treated ourselves to a cruise, and he made a few promises concerning us and God.
That was one of the happiest times we had together. He got a jolt from his few months in jail and he seemed a changed man. Unfortunately, as the months went by he returned to his old life, as if drawn to it like a magnet. But it was after the passing of his uncle that things really hit rock bottom. He was encouraged by family members to move back home, a stone’s throw from his residence. When he decided to do that, I fast forwarded my plans to get my own house.
And it was a good thing that I did too because after he moved into his uncle’s place a woman moved in soon afterwards to be with him – right in my face. The man had no shame at all, especially after all I did for him. Then, as if to add insult to injury, he began removing all the light bulbs, a fan, and disconnected the AC unit in his house. Thankfully, I was blessed with some light from someone in the area so I would not have to live in darkness. But soon after that I received my keys for my new home and was able to move out. I am now on my own.
As for my ex-boyfriend, since May 2007 until now this man has run through countless women. He has them one after the other like passengers getting on and getting off a ZR. But it seems no matter who he has he can’t find happiness. I say this because he came to me recently with all his cuteness and soft-spoken manner and told me he wants us to try again. He told me that he has changed and would like us to get married. But when I told him that he would have to take on some of the debts I am saddled with because of helping him out, first with his house and then when he was in trouble with the police, he pretended he could not manage that.
Why are some men so wicked? Why did I have to meet this trickster?
Thankfully, God is faithful and has granted me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change. I can do nothing to make that man a better person and I realise that now. But I will survive in spite of all the wicked things he did me. And I will forever continue to praise God for giving me the guidance and temperament to deal with this situation. He really does not put more on you than you can bear.
People like my ex-boyfriend will suffer for their bad treatment of good women like me. He and other men who hurt women will find out the hard way that God is still on His throne and they will not be let off the hook for doing evil. And I know one day – maybe it will happen when he gets old – he will pay for treating me unfairly.
