Why is it that as men get older they turn foolish behind young girls?
I have been asking this question for the last seven months and to this day all I hear is that is how they handle their mid-life crisis.
But I don’t think it is that. I feel they do it because they have no respect for their women, their children, and most of all, for themselves. I am convinced of that.
Take my son’s father. He was 42 years old and living with me for five years and then he went stupid behind a young girl. One day when I was big pregnant and came home early from work because I was not feeling good, I caught him in bed with our 19-year-old neighbour. I decided then and there to end the relationship.
I packed my clothes and went back to my mother’s house. What had me so angry was that not only was he a real dog to cheat on me in the first place, but to do it with the young girl who lived right next door to us was the ultimate insult.
I have no idea how long they were messing around together, but the fact that it happened at all was the height of disrespect.
After I left, the two of them became a number. But what I could never understand is how parents could allow their teenage daughter to sleep with a man more than twice her age, and that man had a woman pregnant. Where was their influence and guidance in all of this? And yet we wonder how the youth get so?
Anyway, I remained at my mother, and he never came around to look for me even once. I was about seven months clear and ready to bring his first child into this world when I caught him and her naked, yet he never called once to say anything.
As he wouldn’t call to beg back, I decided to call him and tell him off for being so insensitive and uncaring. As I needed money to go to the doctor, I called him to ask him to drop off some for me. He responded by telling me that he never sent me anywhere, and if I want to have his money, then I should come back to live with him. If not, he had no time for me.
I never called him back. Since then I had the child and not once has he come to look for it, so I must deal with the child on my own.
My mother got annoyed and called him and told him off. She told him if he didn’t live up to his responsibility I was going to put him in court for maintenance. He told her he had no money to give and, besides, how does he know that the child is even his? Can you imagine that? This was the same man who used to brag that he had the most honest and decent woman in the world.
But what hurts me so much is how he could just turn his back on me and his child. How could any man do such a thing?
Imagine he actually told a friend of ours that the young girl is more important to him than any child. How could a man be so bewitched behind any woman like this?
All I can say from what I went through is that I would never trust another man again.
I always heard from my mother how men just use you and dump you.
Now I know for sure that is true.