What I am revealing started some time ago and I think it’s time the truth came out. I have sat and watched one of my good friends being lied to, cheated on, infected with a sexually transmitted disease and made a fool of by a man that she is head over heels in love with.
I need her to wise up. I need her to stop being like the majority of women in Barbados who believe that everything their men tell them is the truth.
Everything was perfect between my friend and her man until a brown-skin young woman came into the neighbourhood. My friend’s boyfriend fell in love with that woman and has since become entangled in a web of lies, sex and deception.
This man is so good that no matter what truth reveals itself, he always manages to lie his way out of it. Not that his excuses are plausible, but my friend is so blinded by what she thinks is love that she believes he can do no wrong.
Other mutual friends have seen this pattern in him before, with his children’s mother, who my friend made fun of. But now the tables have turned and she’s the one with the sleepless nights.
This brown-skin woman lives opposite his workplace so he spends a lot of time with her, so much so that the two of them have become like Bonnie and Clyde. He tells her everything, including intimate details of his relationship with my friend.
Although my friend sleeps with him every night, he failed to inform her of the chlamydia infection they shared.
All he did was give her medication and told her that he got an infection when he got into an accident and the antibiotics were to prevent her from contracting this infection. How stupid could one woman be?
But what hurts me is how he mocks my friend when he invites them both to the same outings. Though they’ve never meet, the new love is well aware of my friend’s presence.
Although my friend has seen the new love on several occasions at several outings, she still doesn’t know her.
For example, at a recent event the new love proceeded to jam on him in front of my friend and all she did was to ask him who the woman was and he replied that he didn’t know her.
What is hurting me, too, is that he has my friend very self-conscious and suffering with low self-esteem; she joined a gym because he said she was putting on too much weight.
She is also in the salon on a regular basis getting her hair and nails done.
Lately, my friend has been jumping through hoops trying to please him but he still finds time to meet the new love.
He now has more time to spend with her as my friend has to return to work now that the school term is beginning.
She has been with this man for more than three years and can’t see that she had to propose for them to be engaged.
Yet not even that stops him from spending time with his children or being affiliated with his children’s mother. My friend always tries to get between them and make him feel that she is being wronged.
I know so much because I am a mutual friend of both of these women and it is no longer easy to sit back and say nothing.
This man needs to realise that his motto “Don’t hate the player, hate the game” is wrong and that what he is doing is wicked.
