Dear Christine,
I have three problems. Here they are:
If you have a boyfriend who only visits on Fridays, Saturdays and Sundays, but when he does he falls asleep what should I do?
Second, if he does not call after an argument what should I do?
Third, if he is always miserable and never tells me that he loves me, what should I do?
I love my boyfriend very much. I want a long lasting relationship with him. Christine, he works from Monday to Saturday in his own business.
He takes me home once I’m working morning or evenings from Monday to Thursday, but I have a problem that Fridays, Saturdays and Sundays are the only days that I can spend with him.
Christine, from the time he gets at my house he’s almost asleep. He says he’s tired, so we hardly spend any romantic time together. He also says that he’s not a romantic person. What should I do there?
I become frustrated when he sleeps – I just want him to pay me some attention, but I can never get it done, no matter what. We always end up arguing over this.
On two occasions, I got home and forgot to call him to let him know I got home safely. I told him I was tired when I got in, had a bath and went to sleep. He told me that I don’t have to call at all anymore. I asked myself, when he recognised that I didn’t called, why didn’t he?
Christine, he has a vehicle but I have to take the bus at nights because he says he has to look after his father’s vehicles. I don’t have a problem with that, but sometimes when I get in and let him know I reached in safe he never responds. What must I do there?
He’s a person whom I love and appreciate very much. Whatever he wants, I will give him. I’ll do almost anything for him but I cannot understand why he would say that I want to control him. That’s not true.
Christine, if I ask him to do something for me he would, so if at times he can’t I don’t ask him why.
Another problem is when I ask him to sleep over he says that he can’t because he has to prepare his stuff for work the next day and that he would never sleep away from home. If I ask him to go out, that’s another problem at times. There is no special time for me.
Christine, help me to find a solution. Deep down in my heart somewhere
I don’t feel he cares and loves me the way I love and care for him. Please tell me what to do.
– C.B.
Dear C.B:
It seems that everything this man does either annoys or frustrates you.
I am not going to say that he does not love you, but it is clear that he’s not into you as much as you are into him.
And, if I may add, you seem to be asking for too much. If he does not fit your bill of “the one”, and if he is not living up to your expectations, stop trying to change him, and let him go. You will save yourself a lot of heartbreak further down the road.
– CHRISTINE