Dear Christine,
Before I start this story with you, I just want to say that what I did was stupid, because right now I’m lonely, sad and I need someone.
I broke up with my ex, R, last year because of [another] man. Our relationship was going good until this man stepped into the picture.
When I finished with my ex, R, I went with J because of his sweet talk; that is what got me into trouble. I moved in with him and things were going good, but when he told me he had sex with two other girls I was shocked. I just could not believe it. I felt then that I should have stayed with R. Now everything is messed up and my whole life is falling apart.
When he told me this I started having sex with other men. I was not feeling right, and so I went to have a blood test. That is the end of the story. All I want to say to women is to be careful when listening to some of the men out there.
– S
Dear S,
Promiscuity is a dangerous game that some people play, and they often pay hard for living such a life. There is no one you can blame for your promiscuity but yourself. For years now advertisements have been cautioning us about having one partner and using condoms.
Furthermore, it is unwise to heal a broken heart by running from one partner to the other. We should all respect our bodies.
Each individual is responsible for the decisions he or she makes when it comes to his or her sex life; unless, of course, a person has been raped.
You have made some bad choices and you have been honest enough to say that you have. Don’t be too hard on yourself right now. Pick up whatever pieces of your life are broken; forgive yourself; ask God to forgive you and to give you the strength to go from there.
Know that as long as there is life, there is the opportunity to heal and get back on track. I also hope that your message, as “subliminal” as it may be, will caution other men and women about their own promiscuity.
– CHRISTINE
