Mothers must also take blame for the bad fathers and husbands.
That is the reasoning of Men’s Educational Support Association (MESA) president Ralph Boyce, who said some bad fathers started out as children beaten by parents as a form of discipline.
“A lot of times the ladies are raising the children, and then they complain that the boys are beating them, and violent,” he said to a meeting of Parent Education for Development in Barbados (PAREDOS) last Saturday at Alexandra School.
He spoke of a male colleague’s prior comment that the behaviour of most men was based on how women treated them as boys. “His simple example is that a lot of times the woman says to the boy child, ‘If you don’t do what I tell you, I going to beat you’,” Boyce remarked.
Speaking to 20 women and three men, Boyce contended that boys took that philosophy to adulthood and into their relationships: “If you don’t do what I say, I going slap you; I going beat you, I going kick you.” (GA)
