DEAR CHRISTINE, I AM very grateful for some of the answers you give people, although I don’t understand why people get so uptight about a married man.
You cannot stop loving someone married or single. I would like to tell you my story and would be glad if you would print it, because if some women would think like me, they would be happier.
I met a married man recently and we got very close. When I first met him everything was all right. We went to parties together and then he started sleeping by me and going home early the next morning.
Everything was going good, but my conscience got the better of me and I told him I did not mind him coming by me, but sleeping would be out of the question.
He asked me if I had another man to come by me and so did not want him there. Well, that started the noise.
He has a child and I live in the same area where he and his wife live. I can see them driving about in the car. He makes excuses that he has to take the child to her grandmother.
Once when he was not working, he used to come and do anything for me, but I used to tell him that some person is going to tell his wife.
He got vexed and said that I was the only woman he knows that looks out for another woman and not for herself. I love this man but I know any seriousness would cause heartbreak.
Now he is working again, he and his wife pass me going to work and all he does is toot the horn. I have not been seeing him for quite some time, because he claims his wife comes for him at work and he has no time.
This is a joke because he was always able to find me, but it would appear that he and his wife are going good again.
I am glad because I would not like them to break up through me.
I was discussing this with a friend of his, and she told me that the man was a trickster because he generally goes around telling women he is not married and when they find out, he quits. What do you think, Christine?
– G.K.
Dear G.K.,
It is to your credit that you would look out for another woman, but it would also be to your advantage to look out for yourself.
By this I do not mean that you must go after this man, but let him go altogether. That would be looking after yourself.
If you are genuinely against hurting his wife, then you must not see him, especially if it means you’ll have an intimate relationship with him.
Surely you can see that, after all that has happened between the two of you, now you have ended up with a “toot” from his car horn. In my opinion, it was just time wasted.
– CHRISTINE
