Dear Christine,
THIS IS the first time that I have had an opportunity to write to you. I have been reading your column fora long time.
I am a 35-year-old woman and I have two children for a young man. Now, he has left me in the house with them. He does not want to support them and sometimes he plays the fool.
Well, as a result, I found myself with a married man and I’ve had him for two years. The thing is, he does not work either.
He has a wife and four children. They are not together. He lives alone. Sometimes I visit him. I used to work but now I am at home. I have to do other things to get money to support my children. I have other men who are looking at me.
I live in a house with my children but I just love this man.
I don’t want to lose him. If only he could ask for a divorce I would marry him.
So please Christine, give me some advice. Should I go on loving this man for nothing?
He has other women making a noise for him but he still does not care about them. This man will talk with me in the dark, when I go by him, but he does not talk to me for his family to see.
What should I do?
– A.C.
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Dear A.C.,
Start to love and respect yourself. What do you want with a man who won’t or cannot support you, or who won’t talk to you except in the dark? What is he ashamed of? What are you ashamed of?
Stop relying on men to give you things. Try and support yourself, then you’ll be able to make a better choice than what you are doing right now.
You are not getting any help. You are only placing more problems on your already problem-filled life. Find the help you are looking for at the end of your two arms – your own two hands.
Furthermore, despite all you’ve said about loving this man, he is married. I’m sure that among the men who are looking at you are a few who are single. You have a choice to make things better for yourself, if you will leave this married man alone.
– CHRISTINE
